Mandy's 1996 Ford Explorer XLT

Jesse's 1994 Ford F150

New, New, New

Since last writing, a lot has happened. As I previously mentioned, we were going to take the money we inherited to pay off our bill, buy new cars, and put a down-payment on a house. We have stayed true to our plans and I wanted to share with everyone progress we have made. I was hoping to have pictures posted of our new cars, but have trouble getting both of our cars home at the same time, during the day-time, due to our opposite schedules. I'll do my best to get it posted soon, though.Meanwhile, I will tell you that it was absolutely God's hand in the car-searching process. For months we had been scouring the web pages of Craigslist and perusing any ads we came across. I had my heart set on an SUV, the car of my dreams, and I happened to find a Chevy Tahoe for sale from a local U of O student. At the same time, I found a Dodge Durango that I loved as well at a small local dealership. However, despite loving the Durango, it was more than I originally wanted to spend and I could only get it down to that still-too-high price by trading in my car. In addition to that, the dealership was a really odd and slightly shady place. The employees were awkward, didn't seem to know the right information about their products, and did weird things like just give us the keys to test-drive the car without telling us anything about it or riding with us, and then handing us $20 and asking us to gas it up! And, while I still loved the Durango and had always dreamed of owning one, the more we were there, the more body damage I found on it and the less I trusted the dealership to not sell me a lemon. That left me leaning towards the Tahoe sold by, I thought, a more reliable source.Buying the Tahoe quickly turned into a very heavy-pressure situation. We met with the guy and first test-drove the car on a Sunday. The only thing that I immediately found wrong with it, in driving, was that the brake had to be pressed all the way to the floor in order to get it to stop while the gas was really sensitive and would rev up quickly with very little pressure. I thought this was simply an adjustment that needed to be made, tightening something up, and would be easy to fix. Although, because I am so short, it frightened me a little bit to be driving such a big car that was so hard to stop. In addition, there was some serious interior damage in the back of the car, but I wasn't very concerned because the guy had already made arrangements to have it fixed. And I felt like the price for the entire car was very good. We were ready to write the guy a check, but couldn't access our money until the next Friday because of the temporary hold the bank had on it. Because he would be held liable if we were to get into an accident if he gave us the car with a post-dated check, the guy actually pulled out on us and refused to sell it until we could have cash. While we completely understood, little did we know that this was an answer to a prayer that we hadn't even prayed yet. This is where the pressure began, though. The guy happened to be going to Washington the following weekend to go back home and wanted to buy a new car while he was there. Because of that, he first wanted us to contact our bank and ask for the money in advance, which we knew we couldn't do. Then, because he wanted to set up his new car with the dealer in Washington (and didn't want to back out on the dealer if we backed out on him), he now wanted us to pay a deposit on the car assuring him that we'd for sure buy it and assuring us that he'd save it for us. First, though, we wanted our mechanic friend to check out the Tahoe and make sure we were making a good buy. This caused even more pressure when the guy, in turn, wanted us to meet on his timing with the mechanic despite our work schedules. By now, I was beginning to get frustrated, feeling like we, as the buyers, should have the upper-hand, not him! We shouldn't feel so much pressure to buy something. So, now it was Wednesday. Our mechanic was going to check out the Tahoe and we'd pay the deposit up-front, following our mechanic's approval, and buy the car by Friday upon which the guy would head to Washington and buy his new car. Our mechanic looked under the hood and beneath the car and took it for a drive around the block. Then we asked the guy to allow us to talk to our mechanic before paying him the deposit. He hesitated to do this, in such a hurry to get his money, but finally agreed. As soon as he left, our mechanic informed us that this car was a piece of junk. The brakes, in fact, going to go out at any moment, making the car unsafe to drive. In order to fix this, the master cylinder needed to be completely replaced (for a few hundred dollars), the brake pads needed to be replaced, and there were oil leaks all throughout the engine. In short, he said that no matter how much money we spent fixing it up (which would add up to quite a bit), it wouldn't be worth it in the end. From this point, we had to apologetically pull out on the guy who was not happy, to say the least. He tried really hard to convince us that his mechanics had already checked it out and that it was a good car. We, however, really trust our mechanic and weren't going to cave in. Despite of all of this, or maybe because of it, even though it was discouraging to be back at square one with no options at hand, it was actually a huge relief off of our shoulders to no longer be pressured into buying this car. I realized that I had doubts all along about the Tahoe, but kept convincing myself that it was, on paper, everything that I wanted it to be. We had been praying about everything all along, asking God to give us wisdom to buy the right cars and felt like God had answered despite our ignorance.From here, I found a 1996 Ford Explorer for sale from a lady who happened to be moving out of state in an RV within a week and HAD to sell her car since it couldn't be towed. Because of this, she was offering a really low price for it. We drove it and loved it from the beginning. This car was this lady's baby. She adored it and was sad to be selling it. In fact, she hadn't even told her kids about it because she was having such a hard time parting with it. She told us that she'd probably cry when we drove it away. She happened to be a mid-wife as well and told us that there's no way she'd sell us a bad car knowing that we intended to put kids into it in the future. We both felt an intense peace that this was the car I was supposed to get.When it came to Jesse's car, it was also quite the ordeal. He was planning on buying a 1992 Ford F150 from a co-worker. However, each time the guy was supposed to do something to get the truck ready, he flaked out and didn't end up getting it done. For example, the co-worker agreed to replace the tires before selling the truck to Jesse, and the same day that I got the Explorer, we were supposed to meet the co-worker so that Jesse could go with him to replace the tires. However, after calling him for 9 hours straight, Jesse could not get a hold of the guy and was fed-up with the flakiness. We then began a search for Jesse's truck at local dealerships. It was a very trying day. It was pouring down rain and hailing and at many of the dealerships, no one would come out to help us. We were so angry and ready to give up and go home. But Jesse wanted to check out one more place before going home defeated.Here, Jesse found a 1994 Ford F150, nearly identical to his co-worker's truck. It was listed too high for our budget, but Jesse hoped to haggle it down to the perfect price. We spent over an hour there going back and forth on the price and negotiations. In the end, we got the truck down to our price, made the dealer pay the DMV fees, and traded in my car. While I had hoped to sell the car and make more money, it was actually a relief to not have to worry about fixing it up and selling it. And while I was completely frustrated with the salesmen who wouldn't stop pressuring us, Jesse ended up with his dream truck. He frequently looks at it with admiration and talks about how beautiful it is! :-)After completing our car search, we began searching for a house to buy!!! We met with a realtor who happened to graduate high school with my mom. She is a Christian and works with lenders and inspectors, etc., who are also Christians and are available at all hours for our convenience. She answered many of our questions and gave us a notebook that gives us directions and information about every step of the home-buying process. From there, we met with a lender who told us how much we could afford for a house and what loans we were eligible for. Because we can't afford very much, especially for the price of homes in Oregon, we had to sift through a lot of fixer-uppers to find some nice houses. We quickly discovered that the houses in our budget were those that were built in the 40's and 50's, and we could either get a small 2-bedroom house 600-900 sq ft. that had been completely remodeled or a bigger house (possibly 3-bedroom) that needed a lot of repairs. So small and move-in ready vs. bigger and needing lots of repairs. Furthermore, we found out that many houses built in that era had low ceilings, barely higher than Jesse's head and tiny rooms, smaller than 10x10 ft. Then, we came across a brand new development being built in the Thurston district of Springfield. These were homes built in 2008, just under 1000 sq ft, 2 bedrooms, and very contemporary. It had higher ceilings, bigger rooms, open-floor plan, vinyl siding, modern colors, and was cheaper than the previous houses we had looked at. Many of the homes aren't even finished being built, but it is a very nice neighborhood and has a pretty view of the mountains and a brand new playground on the premises. Because it's in a housing development, we would have certain rules we'd have to follow about parking and outdoor decor, but nothing that we wouldn't want. Furthermore, it keeps our neighborhood in nice condition. This is the house Jesse wants. He says that if we only had one kid, he could live there forever! So, this afternoon, we are going to check it out once again, the specific house we would move into, not one under construction, and will begin making an offer on the house because this house will go quickly.It's pretty exciting to be doing so many big things so quickly. I realized that I got married, graduated from college, bought a new car, am buying a new house, and trying to have a baby all in 1 year! Those are some pretty big life events!!!Lastly, Jesse had his first football game last Saturday, playing for the Eugene Oregon Outlaws, a 2-time champion semi-pro football team. It was raining and snowing and very, VERY cold, but the team did great and blew out the other team, winning 47-7. Jesse loved every minute of it. He was excited since he had not played a game since high school, and remembered once on the field why he loved it so much. I'll post pics soon of everything, but have to leave to go check out my new possible house!

Us

I realized that I hadn't posted what was new in our lives as a couple in a while. Truthfully, I keep waiting for something to happen only to find myself still waiting for the next big event. I figured, though, that despite a lack of knowledge about where it's all going, I could still tell you where we are now.A very big thing in our lives has been a generous gift we just received from Jesse's grandpa. He set up a loan for Jesse and his brother Michael when their mom died years ago. This amount reached a high amount, but with the fluctuation of the economy, it was beginning to decrease. Being up in years, he also no longer wanted bank accounts and savings hanging over his head and was ready to liquidate his funds. In addition, seeing a possible need that Michael and Kaela may have for the money right now, it all seemed to determine now as the right time for releasing the money. Jesse and I first decided to tithe a tenth of the total amount to honor God with what He has given us. Then we would pay off our existing bills, specifically Jesse's hospital bill from his stitches months ago and his student loans. Then, we wanted to buy me a new car- one that is more family-friendly for having kids in the future. It's really hard as it is to get an infant out of a carseat in my two-door Ford Probe. You have to completely climb in and remove the baby from the seat maneuvering them between the carseat and the car ceiling. Not ideal at all. Furthermore, Jesse has had his heart really set on buying a truck for himself, so we decided to lessen the price of my car and get Jesse his own car as well, and sell the Probe to make up for the additional cost. From there, we want to put the remaining amount into a savings account as a down payment on a house. With our previous debt paid off, we will have an additional $900 a month to put towards any additional expenses and to add to our savings account. We are very aware of what an extreme blessing it is to be totally debt-free and have a hefty nest-egg for a house after being married only 8 months. There is a hold on the money in the bank until Friday while they verify that the money is from a valid source. Therefore, Jesse and I have yet to spend a cent of it. However, we have been looking extensively at cars for the past two weeks and each have our eyes set on the one we want. It's now just a matter of time until we are free to make the purchases.Aside from the recent financial blessings and decisions, Jesse and I have been continuing our quest for a baby. Both of us want one with our whole hearts, and the previous 5 months have been quite an emotional roller-coaster as we have been met with a series of disappointments. We both have a history of infertility in our families and that causes us to feel even more stress as each week turns into a month and each month turns into another month. Right now, we are in the midst of another waiting game as we anticipate fertility and a positive or negative result. We have decided that by mid-March if everything is still coming up negative, we will seek the counsel of a doctor. While I don't believe they will be too concerned about infertility considering that we've been trying for less than a year, perhaps they can give us any advice about ways to increase our chances of conceiving. And if we can provide them with a knowledge of our family history, our doctor can determine how concerned he is about us inheriting these problems. As we deal with every disappointment and insecurity, we are learning to take our fears and broken hearts to God. For me, it doesn't give me a sudden feeling of relief upon releasing it into God's hands. Rather, it is a matter of taking it before God over and over again with every crisis I face, pleading for strength to get through it and for faith to trust in His timing. Jesse and I pray together lifting up our desires to God and Jesse does a good job of consoling me as I experience all of the emotions. As we continue to go through this, I will keep updating everyone. And you can be certain that as soon as I learn that I am pregnant, I won't be able to contain the secret.Aside from these things, I am working on one of my best friend's baby shower as she anticipates the arrival of her firstborn in April. Jesse has also begun playing football for the Eugene Outlaws, the local semi-pro team. While Jesse is discovering it's not the same as high school or college ball,I think that he enjoys being on a competitive team again and getting back into shape. He's recently joined a gym and signed up with a personal trainer who works him hard. He currently doesn't plan on playing again next year, but I'm glad he pursued it this year. Otherwise, I fear that he always would've wondered what could've been.On a day-to-day basis, it doesn't seem that our lives are too eventful. But as we make every decision and face every event, high or low, I am thrilled to be experiencing it with the love of my life. After all, it's every thing, mundane and exciting together, that make today just another day in paradise...

The Birth of My Nephew

Today I got to witness a miracle. After weeks of false labors and constant questions concerning due dates, my sister-in-law, Kaela, was induced to give birth today. She went in at 6:30am, was admitted, and given medication to start the labor. Jesse and I joined her just after 8:30 to find Kaela and Michael in good spirits along with Kaela's mom and sisters, Katie and Angi, who joined us shortly. At this point, her contractions were 3 minutes apart and she was about 4 cm dilated. As her contractions got stronger and stronger, Kaela finally asked for her epidural. We all were made to leave as she was given her meds. By the time we were allowed back in, nearly an hour later, it was nearing noon and everyone was getting pretty tired from the long day thus far. So Kaela turned over to take a nap as both Michael and Jesse began to snooze in their seat. Kaela's mom and sisters decided to go for a walk and set off. About 30 minutes later, Michael received a phone call from another family member which woke Kaela up as well. Upon waking up, Kaela felt an extreme amount of pressure and pushed her button to release more meds but felt no relief. So, at this point a nurse was called in to check on the situation. As Kaela described her need to push, the nurse replied that it may actually be time to do so. As soon as she checked Kaela, she knew that this baby was coming immediately and urgently called for extra doctors and nurses. Michael tried to call Kaela's family but got no answer. So Jesse set out to find them while I remained the only other family member in the room. With only 4 pushes in less than 10 minutes, there was a healthy baby boy born at 1:05 pm. Angi made it back just in time to see the body of the baby be delivered but I ended up being the only person to witness the entire birth. It was amazing!Michael was able to cut the umbilical cord and give the baby his first bath. The little one, named Korbin James Peterson, weighed in at 7 lbs 2.6 oz and was 20 in long. He is probably the most perfect little baby I've ever seen. Absolutely beautiful and completely healthy!